Do I have a choice?

So today I have finally gotten to the end of my rope with the whole Marriage thing in our society. Too many things have been said to me in the last few weeks for me to just sit back and be treated like a second class citizen because I am not married. We have all seen Sex and the City, where 30 something women struggle to maintain careers and their dignity while treading water waiting for the right man to come along. It's bullshit. Why does the right man have to come along? I mean, if he doens't do I settle for Mr OK or Mr Marginally My Type? I don't think so. Everyone places so much pressure on people to get married and have a family! If you are not married by a certain age then either there is something wrong with you or your ideals of a mate are too high. I am pretty sick of it. Here is a list of the comments I have gotten that make me wonder why my priorities don't match up with everyone elses.

1. THE FEDEX GUY: He sees pics on te computer at reception of two children and asks me if they are mine...I say "no, I don't have children." then he says "Are you married?" I say "No" and then he says "Why not?" to which I say "Should I be married? I thought that was a choice?!". Then he shows up again today and the first thing out ofhis white trash mouth is "So, did they marry you off yet?" to which I answer "Not today". What I wanted to say was "No they didn't and WHO is THEY? And Yet? Am I a burden on my family and friends because I am not married? Are they secretly plotting to marry me off so someone else can take care of me finally?" So you can say I am Fed UP with the FedEx guy.

2. THE BOSS So a coworker got engaged over the weekend. The Boss walks through the kitchen as I am sitting at my desk (directly across the hall) and in front of the engaged coworker and three to four other people points at me and yells out "HAHA, She got a ring this weekend and YOU DIDN'T!!! HAHA!" Yeah. thanks. What was that all about? Because I am single I am automatically the loser of some contest? Here's a funny fact:Her fiance asked me out a month before he started dated her! I said no, therefore that could have been me! But again I wasn't going to settle. Perhaps if I had gotten a ring then my weekend would have been up to snuff? Right. That is one of those situations where you just want to shake your head and yell What the F#ck!!???

3. Worth According to PieHole My third and final is a wonderful email from PieHole in which she rips apart everything in my life as if to say I am a failure: "Funny when I was 30yrs old I had worked in my professional job for 9 years and was making 45,000-55,000 with bonuses and paying for my own apt and getting ready to get married. So glad you are 30 yrs old and going to school to find a career and make some money. I guess you have time to be a glorified secretary."
SO I guess that is how we are judged. How much do you make? and Are you married by 30? One thing I can say is that this fat bitch is just that, fat. She sits at home like a lazy slob. I would much rather be in my position, poor (because I do pay for my apartment, always have) and unmarried than in a horrible marriage with money and having a nickname like Jabba the Hut. Just because you are married doesn't mean your life is better!


Not that I couldn't go on for days about all the comments I have gotten as a single girl now 30, but I thought these few were by far the best and happened with in the last few months. I used to think that "How come some people get two shots and I haven't even gotten one?" Well after these and other situations I know the answer! Because I won't settle the first time! That means even if I NEVER GET MARRIED!!!

Did I just hear a collective GASP? Could it be? Carol just said she doesn't care if she gets MARRIED? Quick! Call a Doctor, a Psychiatrist, a Scientologist! She needs serious help! Every girl wants to get married!! Right?

Yeah, well those of you who know me know I am not every girl. I am not saying I won't get married, I am just saying I won't settle just so I can say I am married. there is a big difference. I joke about Michael Rosenbaum and Gerry Butler, and of course I wouldn't turn them down!! haha that was a joke! I just have other priorities that need tending. A career for instance. I have a job, but I want to be a teacher! That takes time and that's tops on my list right now. Meeting a guy ranks up there with getting a dog for me: I would like to have one but I can't really afford it right now. Not to say if I met an awesome guy I would ignore it, I'm just turned off by everything and everyone lately as you can see by the comments I have been getting.

Being single is a CHOICE. I have gotten many offers, some I have taken, some I have declined. I am who I am and I will keep plugging along until I see something I like, I can't force it or worry about it. I think dating is like shopping. I'm a window shopper not an impulse buyer. Fancy packaging will catch my eye of course, but a quality product is what I am looking for. If I find it, great, if not, I may end up asking "How much is that Doggie in the window??".